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Freeing Ourselves From The Mad Myths Of Parenthood Freeing Ourselves From The Mad Myths Of Parenthood

A Must-Read for Parents of All Ages, Wannabe Parents, and the Cheerfully Childfree!

In this fearlessly honest book, Susan Jeffers breaks the 'conspiracy of silence' and pulls no punches about how difficult parenthood is for many. With humour and compassion, she reveals the insidious guilt traps set by too many of the child-care 'experts' and the child-centred society we inhabit. She questions many fashionable myths and half-truths that add to a parent's sense of inadequacy and guilt, and she offers valuable 'survival' tools to cope with it all.

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Freeing Ourselves From the Mad Myths of Parenthood (formerly titled I'm Okay You're a Brat) explains:

why parenthood is a joy for some and a nightmare for others

why what you put in doesn't necessarily come out

why our relationship with our spouses often suffer when children enter the picture

why our lives change so drastically when a child is born

why we can love our kids yet hate parenthood

why we can have great fulfilment in life with - or without - children ... and much more!


'BRILLIANT! A brave and revolutionary book that dares to confront many of our long-cherished beliefs about parenthood and parenting.'

- Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail

'Many welcome surprises await the reader of this marvelously honest book! I heartily recommend it! It will remove any guilt and confusion you may be having about so many aspects of parenthood...whether you are a parent or not.'

- Barbara De Angelis, Author of Secrets About Life Every Woman Should Know

Table of Contents


Chapter 1: Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me?
Chapter 2: I Want My Life Back
Chapter 3: Oil and Water: Sex and Diapers
Chapter 4: The Unspeakable Truth About Kids

Chapter 5 What You Put In Doesn't Necessarily Come Out
Chapter 6 Down With the Guilt Peddlers!
Chapter 7 The Mad, Mad Myths of Parenthood
Chapter 8 The Dangers of Full-Time Parenting
Chapter 9 There's No Place Like Work

Chapter 10 So Why Do We Do It?
Chapter 11 So Why DON'T We Do It?
Chapter 12 If One Could Do It Over Again...

CONCLUSION And When All Is Said and Done
ADDENDUM A Survival Guide!


One day we will look back and realize what crazy times we now live in when it comes to issues relating to parenthood. Whether we are conscious of it or not, we are presently drowning in a sea of crazy-making myths that are mercilessly taking away our peace of mind. For those of us who are parents, these myths have filled us with guilt, fear, and confusion and they have ripped away our sacred trust in ourselves. For those of us who are would-be parents, they have misled us by painting a distorted picture of what having a child is truly about. It's definitely time for these destructive myths to be exposed so that the critical decisions we have to make, either as a parent or a would-be parent, are based on fact rather than fiction.

First let me give you my definition of 'myth' as I am using it here: A myth is an unproven collective belief that is accepted by society-at-large as truth. 'If everyone believes it, it must be so'. Need I remind you that everyone once believed that the earth was flat. Many of the decrees passed down by our society in recent years belong in the category of 'the earth is flat'...erroneous (or at least, questionable) beliefs that we've accepted as truth.

For much too long a time, the rewards of parenthood have been hugely magnified while the woes have been surrounded by what has been described by a number of people as a conspiracy of silence. For many reasons, which will become evident as you read through this book, I felt it was important to expose this harmful conspiracy and let the truth be known. In these pages you will learn the de-glorified, de-sanctified and de-romanticized truth about many of the realities of raising children. It is written with a great deal of compassion for the feelings of parents; too many books dwell only on the feelings of the child. My goal was to heal the pain, the guilt, the frustration, the anguish, the confusion, the anger, and the worry too many parents feel as a result of all the myths and half-truths they have been fed by our society. My hope is that in the midst of the humor and honesty, parents and would-be parents will find a wonderful sense of comfort, understanding, wisdom, satisfaction, and lightness that has eluded them before.

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